All attendees and members are expected to be respectful and kind to all other attendees, members, Trying to Adult leadership team, event staff, and all people involved with Trying to Adult RVA. If you violate this rule, you can be prohibited from attending events at the discretion of Trying to Adult’s RVA leadership team.

You must be 21 or older to attend any Trying to Adult RVA event.  Regardless of the event, anyone under the age of 21 is not allowed to join the Trying to Adult RVA group or its events.  Trying to Adult RVA does not provide alcohol to members, however, alcohol may be available at events based on venue and the applicable ABC laws.  Trying to Adult RVA encourages attendees to drink responsibly.  If you appear to be intoxicated at an event Trying to Adult RVA leadership has the right to call the local police if there is any concern for others.  While we are “trying” to adult, please be responsible for yourself and use public transit or ride share if you plan to drink at any event.  Trying to Adult RVA is not responsible for the decisions or results thereof of any event attendee.

At the discretion of Trying to Adult RVA leadership, any member can be removed from the group and banned from attending any Trying to Adult RVA events if they violate any rules.

Any member who no-shows to 3 events will be removed from the group and banned from attending events.  Requests to rejoin can be made.  Rejoin request approvals and denials are subject to the discretion of the Trying to Adult RVA leadership team. Please view our re-entry policy for additional detail.

‘No-show’ means you signed up for an event and did not attend.

For paid events, this means you claimed a ticket to an event, did not try to find someone to take your spot prior to the start of the event or by the RSVP cut off time posted, and did not show up to the event.  To find someone to take your spot, you can message the host of the specific event and/or post a comment on the Meetup event posting.  All exchanges will be done via Trying to Adult RVA. Please do not use payment apps to exchange tickets.  Once you find a replacement, alert the event host.  Your ticket will be refunded once your replacement has paid for the ticket made available for purchase via the Trying to Adult RVA website.

For free events, this means you claimed a spot for an event via the Trying to Adult RVA website, did not give up your spot as outlined below, and did not show. You MUST inform the event host at least 3 hours prior to the start of the event or by the RSVP cut off time posted, if you are no longer able to attend.  Any notification less than that will be considered a no show as it does not allow enough time for others on the waitlist to plan to come. You can message the event host via Meetup or send an email to tryingtoadultrva@gmail.com.

If you were removed from Trying to Adult RVA and prohibited from attending events due to no-shows, you can request to rejoin.  The request is subject to approval by the Trying to Adult RVA leadership team.  If your request is accepted, to return, you must complete the two following requirements:

1. A one-month probation period. During that probation period, you will be prohibited from attending events and prohibited from claiming tickets to future events.
2. If this is your first offense, you will pay a $25 fee. This fee increases by $25 after every re-entry in the one-year period (i.e. second offense $50, third offense $75, and so on). Re-entry will give you two additional no-show passes before being subject to the same policy requirements. Someone from the Trying to Adult RVA leadership team will advise on how to pay this fee when the time comes.

Once you claim a ticket via the Trying to Adult RVA website, you are expected to show for that event.

If it is a free event, please notify the event host if you are no longer able to attend so that your ticket can be made available to others.  Please read the attendance rules for more information.

If it is a paid event, you are responsible for finding a replacement if you can no longer attend.  The replacement cannot be a banned/removed member. The best way to find a replacement is to post a comment on the specific Meetup event page.  You can also message the event host for additional assistance.  Once you find a replacement, please send a message to the event host to assist with the exchange.  Please do not use payment apps to exchange tickets.  If you cannot find someone to claim your spot, you will forfeit the cost paid.

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